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Writing this post has been on my mind for quite a while now. I have prolonged it mainly because I knew that I wanted my little Oliver to be in the photos and I was also aware that coordinating that would not be the easiest task! I think I also knew that writing this post was going to force me to face the emotions that I try to ignore on a daily basis. As women, we really can relate so much to what each other is going through. I know that by opening up this conversation with you that we can share this journey together. We can lean on one another and use this as a way to listen and give advice to one another. Community can be so crucial for motherhood, but often we feel alone in this role. But today, I want to stand together and open up the conversation on mom guilt.
For those of you who might be a little newer to this space, I gave birth to my adorable son Oliver in September of 2017. You can actually read my Labor and Delivery Story, in case you are curious! But I really do feel so blessed and full of gratitude because of him. He truly is such an amazing kid. Overall, he has been an easy child and I know that I have had it good with him. But after the typical 8 week maternity leave, I went right back to work. Aside from my short Summer break, I have been working outside the home since he has been born.
Although in my heart I know that I am doing what is best for my family at this time in our lives, the mom guilt that I carry with me on a daily basis is a very real burden that I bare. My mind tells me that I am doing the best that I can and that working will ultimately give my family a better future. But some days it breaks my heart to walk out that door. I hate that I miss things when I am gone. The smiles, the laughter, and every little and big milestone. And the truth is that I don’t even have a solution. This is not one of those posts where I give you this devote wisdom and share with you the answer to barring this struggle. But what I do what to share is that I am with you.
I can whisper to you like I do to myself that “You are doing your best momma. And that your love is being shown best right now in the form of sacrifice. And sacrificing for your child is the greatest love there is to give.” Whatever kind of mom you are, whether that be a working mom, stay at home mom, or a work from home mom, we all have our crosses that we bare. Therefore in our sufferings, we are united.
So mommas, how do you deal with the mom guilt? I’d love for you to join in the conversation!
I stay home with my son and I get mom guilt just leaving him in his bouncer while I vacuum, or if he is playing on his play mat and I am not really interacting much. Though as he has gotten older and more active, I interact more. Honestly, I feel that if you are feeling that pull to be home with your son, maybe it is worth a talk with your husband. Perhaps you could go part-time or quit and be on one income. I truly believe it is so good for their development to have a parent home with them! I surely don’t know your exact situation, just wanted to suggest it may be good to discuss with your husband if it is bothering you!
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your response! I have definitely considered that and hope for that in the future. I am so lucky to have my husband be at home with him as a work from home dad. But thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing your mom guilt journey. I loved hearing your feedback. Thanks again!